Article ID | Journal | Published Year | Pages | File Type |
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10513188 | Journal of Aging Studies | 2013 | 12 Pages |
Abstract
In Widowhood in an American City (1973), Helena Lopata observed that widows struggle with new romantic relationships because their children often are resentful toward these new partners. Since the publication of Lopata's classic work, however, few studies have explored empirically the ways that widow(er)'s dating affects their relationships with children. We use prospective data from the Changing Lives of Older Couples study (CLOC) to explore: (1) the impact of bereaved spouses' dating on positive and negative aspects of parent-child relationships six and 18Â months postloss; (2) the extent to which these associations are explained by preloss characteristics; and (3) the factors that moderate the association between widow(er) dating and parent-child relations. Multivariate analyses show that widowers who are interested in dating six months postloss report low levels of support and high levels of conflict with their children, yet widows report enhanced relationship quality. This pattern reflects the fact that men who are interested in dating do form new relationships, whereas women's interests are not translated into actual dating. Widowers' dating six months postloss compromises parent-child closeness among those with a history of strained parent-child relations, yet enhances closeness among those with historically good relationships. Dating takes a harsher toll on parent-daughter compared to parent-son relationships. Overall, dating threatens parent-child relationships in specific cases, yet it may also strengthen widow(er) s' parent-child bonds. We discuss the implications for the well-being of older widow(er)s and adult children.
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Authors
Deborah Carr, Kathrin Boerner,