Negotiating actual and anticipated parental support: Multiple sibling voices in three-generation families

Despite extensive research on giving and receiving care, relatively little is known about how adult sibling networks perceive, organize and negotiate care for their old parents. We conduct qualitative analysis of data from a study of 10 multigenerational families to examine the actual and anticipated division of responsibility among siblings. Using a case study approach and multiple sibling voices, we explore how siblings negotiate who will or should provide parental care. Communication and consensus levels within families are notably limited, particularly regarding anticipated caregiving relationships. Whether actual or anticipated, the division of responsibility is often disproportionate. Across study families, relationship history, geographic proximity, gender, marital status, care history, and engagement in paid employment influence which siblings are expected to provide care and who is legitimately excused from caring activities. Case studies reveal the significance of emotional closeness, the need for non-familial options, and the process of claims-making in the evolution of care arrangements over time.