Article ID | Journal | Published Year | Pages | File Type |
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7323005 | Emotion, Space and Society | 2016 | 8 Pages |
Abstract
This essay develops a theory of interpersonal intimacy. It argues that intimacy is made up of four interrelated feeling-states: curiosity, vulnerability, empathy, and a recognition of irreducibility-that is, a recognition that one cannot ever fully know the Other, that one cannot ever completely 'become one with the object adored' (Woolf, 1992b, p.69). These four feeling-states operate as a carefully calibrated series of affective checks and balances; curiosity without empathy can become aggression, vulnerability without curiosity can become selfishness, empathy without uninhabitability can become self-congratulation. However, when these affects coexist, they allow for a generous orientation towards the Other, and for the Other's openness in return-in other words, they lay the groundwork for interpersonal proximity.
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Authors
Julia C. Obert,