Extreme relationship standards in the context of discordant and nondiscordant couples

Research suggests that extreme relationship standards are both positively and negatively associated with relationship satisfaction. This study tested the hypothesis that the association between relationship satisfaction and extreme standards is moderated by the status of the couple (i.e., discordant versus nondiscordant). Sixty-two couples completed a thought-listing task designed to assess relationship standards. Regression analyses supported the study hypothesis. Extreme standards were associated with higher levels of relationship satisfaction among nondiscordant wives but with lower levels of relationship satisfaction among discordant husbands and discordant wives. This study helps clarify the role of extreme standards in relationship functioning, and their potential contributions to both theoretical constructs of relationships as well as the increased efficacy of couples therapy.