Cassandra’s prophecy: why we need to tell the women of the future about age-related fertility decline and ‘delayed’ childbearing

This anonymized paper describes the author’s experience of age-related infertility and unintended childlessness. It outlines her journey from diagnosis to treatment success and clinical pregnancy through assisted reproduction using oocyte donation, followed by subsequent early miscarriage. It makes subjective observations about treatment she received and presents her impressions of how discourses of knowledge dissemination, communication and care were constructed in the organizations she encountered. It sets her own reflections alongside broader observations on the challenges facing women today when planning a family and draws attention to what she perceives to be the misleading myths and misunderstandings concerning reproduction that these women are now subject to. In the light of this, it offers some suggestions for modified public health messages and new approaches to sex education and health screening that may consequently help to empower tomorrow’s women (and men) to take full control over their reproductive lives in the 21st century. The paper takes as its mascot the figure of Cassandra, daughter of King Priam and Queen Hecuba. She was loved by Apollo, but resisted him. In consequence, he rendered useless the gift of prophecy that he had bestowed on her by causing her predictions never to be believed.