The effects of romantic partners’ goal congruence on affective well-being

Affective well-being in romantic couples was examined from the perspective of interdependence theory. The independent variables were (a) presence of partner, (b) whether an activity met the actor’s goals, and (c) goals of the actor’s partner. Dependent variables were feelings of closeness and affective well-being (happiness, sadness, anger, anxiety). We predicted a three-way interaction with the highest affective well-being when partners are together and activities meet both partners’ goals. In Study 1, data from 194 married individuals who participated in an experience sampling study supported our predictions. Feelings of closeness partially mediated the effect on affective well-being. Study 2 replicated the findings with 112 participants in dating relationships who recalled specific events and made ratings about goals and affective well-being.

► We examined affective well-being in romantic partners’ joint activities in two studies.
► We used experience sampling methodology and retrospective recalls of activities.
► Affective well-being was highest in activities that met both partner’s goals.
► People felt closest to their partner in activities that met both partners’ goals.
► Activities that met both partners’ goals were also enjoyed most.